My Grief Challenges

A Me Thing !?! October 31, 2014


                                                  Hold TightlyWhile I was at my friends house, organizing, K-Love had Hebrews 10:23, for the encouraging verse of the day. Each time it was quoted, I felt a jolt run through me—don’t know what that was about  ?

             I am sure this post will offend many, but…        Maybe it is just a me thing !?!                     This past month has been awful. I drive through a lot of neighborhoods. The ugly decorations for this time of year are so repulsive, to me.  I do not like Halloween, at least, not how society has disguised it.   For the life of me, I cannot understand why people are so enthralled with skeletons coming out of the ground, skulls, zombies, ghosts, witches,  figures hanging, dark ugly images and some of the ?  treats are disgusting looking.      GROSS ME OUT !!!                Many of my passengers are quite displeased that  I   ( Mrs. K)   does not hand out treats.    Also,  I have been  so irkitated while driving  the kindys. for several days they have talked amongst themselves about all the cool decorations. They love all the spookie  stuff: zombies,vampires, werewolves.  I overheard many recalls of scary movies-many I recognize the title, but refuse to watch, there seems to be no redeeming theme in them.  One kindy actually  said how much she   loves…. “the death stuff”.                         So why the fascination with death and gore. Why are folks so accepting of the promotion of fear, evil and slaughter. The only thing that makes sense is that folks love the adrenaline rush and do what it takes to get it. So many seem to live in a land of make believe—I wonder how they would deal if they really had to face death, in the face ???                                   I doubt most parents of those children-who (??? celebrate ???) October 31,  have not had to  face the last living moments of their child; watching as  the death gray  color overtakes the color of life.  Many have not felt the warmth of life diminish to cold lifelessness.     Oh, and how many of those gore celebrating parents have heard the last noise their child will ever make, as life’s breath vapors away ?  The sound that escaped from Shawn-as I believe it was his last sound—it wasn’t from pain as his hand was being painted, as some thought.                            *** Just a side note: this gets my goat, I was told, by a friend-who had the job of preparing bodies for Indian burial, when to close Shawn’s eyes-either I forgot her instructions or didn’t do it because I kept hoping something miraculous would happen and if Shawn’s eyes were closed no miracle could happen. Closing Shawn’s eyes seemed such a  final action-even though Shawn’s eyes were  stitched mostly closed.                                                                     Oh man, this is so hard to explain—my frustration with society and it’s love of gore and death.                  I cannot seem to get my thoughts in order, or to make some sense.                                                     Another thing, I used to get sad by the commercialization of Christmas, no more: the main words  are love, joy, peace, Handel’s Messiah;                                                                                                             I will take those over the gore and death October 31, now represents.                                                                    Simple Lighting     Check out this photo, not gorey, just simply beautiful.                                                                                                                                           In my perusings, I was thankful to come across this article. I’m not alone !!!

‘Growing Pains’ Star Kirk Cameron Talks Christian Meaning Behind Halloween

While promoting his upcoming film “Saving Christmas” during an interview with the Christian Post, “Growing Pains” actor Kirk Cameron decided to give a history lesson on the origins of Halloween and its relation to Christianity.

“The real origins have a lot to do with All Saints Day and All Hallows Eve,” he said.

He continued to explain that old church calendars recognize the commercialized holiday under a different name.

“If you go back to old church calendars, especially Catholic calendars, they recognize the holiday All Saints Day, with All Hallows Eve the day before, when they would remember the dead. That’s all tied in to Halloween,” he added.

Cameron then elaborated on how Christians would wear “devil, ghosts, goblins and witches” costumes on All Saints Day “to make the point that those things were defeated and overthrown by the resurrected Jesus Christ.”

But as time has passed, “All Saints Day” is now being celebrated as “Halloween.”

Instead of dressing up as a “ghoul” or “goblin,” as previously mentioned by Cameron, people are now opting to dress up as other characters such as “Obama,” which Cameron claims “pokes fun” at the president and at Christianity.

“The costumes poke fun at the fact that the devil and other evils were publicly humiliated by Christ at His resurrection,” Cameron adds. “That’s what the Scriptures say, that He publicly humiliated the devil when He triumphed over power and principality and put them under his feet.”

Cameron labeled those who wear costumes that allegedly mock the initial intention of Halloween as “pagans who want to go this is our day, high holy day of Satanic church.”

Despite his ill feelings towards “pagans,” the 44-year-old actor still encourages Christians to celebrate Halloween and have “the biggest party on your block” with the intention of spreading awareness about the Christian meaning of Halloween.

“Halloween gives you a great opportunity to show how Christians celebrate the day that death was defeated, and you can give them Gospel tracts and tell the story of how every ghost, goblin, witch and demon was trounced the day Jesus rose from the grave,” Cameron explained.


  For years Bob and I have enjoyed Carmelo Domenic Licciardello.   He is a christian singer.  He has a nice voice.  He is very creative with his videos. Yes, when evil is portrayed, the scary ugly, is very scary ugly.  In one of his videos, “A Witch’s Invitation”, my favorite phrase is at the end of the song. Carmen’s character appears defeated he then prays and the light dawns. He stands to lecture the witch and says:” I am bought by the blood of Jesus, now let me go !!!”   I love those words !!!                                                                                          I know many churches have tried to make a positive regarding October 31.                                             Our church had  a Reformation Night, for October 31.  At one time, the main theme was regarding Luther’s Ninety-Five Theses.  An example of celebrating what used to be a not gore-filled day.

 2654c50588537af31ce091f6848a142e     This poster is so me.                  

*** Regarding Organizing:   Helping my friend is giving me ideas for when the time comes for me to deal with our clutter. I have my list, in mind, of the items I am going to take to Salvation Army.   Oh, and another thing.   Blue Hawk Shelves These are Blue ( I love blue and am tickled when anything has the word in its title) Hawk Tier Shelf. I bought them  from the Milwaukie, OR, Lowes. I find them very practical for sorting onto, while reorganizing.  Just a thought. I am sure a re-purpose, for a later time, is quite doable. Like, when I have to start sorting all my craft essentials (?).


*** Regarding Exercise: As I am clicking my thoughts about the next post, looking out the window—a westward view.                                                  Since Shawn died, I have to be able to look out windows, I cannot stand to have curtains closed.   In the past I would keep curtains open until every bit of daylight was dissolved.                                  This morning my eyes were drawn, not to the sky, but towards a woman running across and back the basketball court. At first I thought she was a frantic mother looking for her child. Then I saw the other woman my memory was jolted.  These 2 have been training  for quite some time. One is the trainer the other is the trainee. One of the exercises I liked was when the trainee was sitting on the bench, arms crossed over chest, throughout the whole exercise. She stood, did a little hop and then sat back down-for  about 20 times !!!  Simple and probably very effective.                          For me, loopin’ is still going well-even with some very drenched moments. Yeah ! For me !!!

***   A silly side note.            Regarding last weeks post, I, accidentally, left a *** note for myself. I wanted to check the date of that time with Shawn.   Just a me thing.   Sorry, no matter how many times I check for things ……..                             Later, K





10422023_10152278108298716_2759735759576360117_n   This poster makes me chuckle.




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